If they are a mature Christian, they are going to be involved in their church. Communicate your desire for a mate, and allow the Lord to direct you both.There may be evidence on their Facebook page that shows them serving. If you meet any man who doesn’t want to take the time to get to know you in the Lord, then he is not the right one.Even if that friendship doesn't lead to something romantic. Spend the extra time getting to know them by emailing, talking on the phone, learning about their past, etc.Some may say it’s OK to friend them on Facebook, etc. For me I would want to know as much as I could before meeting them in person. For me, anything farther than 2 hours would be too far.There is a lot of info you can find out about someone without “friending” them. I would drive 2 hours to have dinner with someone and then drive home. I would ask about their church/ministry, how they serve, who their pastor is, etc.Spend the extra time learning as much as you can before taking the next step. I would discourage dating/getting to know anyone too far away. Again, I am trying to verify who they are in the Lord as well.EDITOR' S NOTE: He Said-She Said is a biweekly advice column for singles featuring a question from a reader with responses from a male and female point of view.If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to [email protected] (selected questions will be posted anonymously). I was married 35 years and he died 8 years ago, and I have had a few men locally interested but they weren't right for me.
Online dating, while successful for a few, is overall a failure for most (despite what the dating services advertise).At some point down the line you will want (need) to meet this person face to face.When you do, make sure you are prayed up and prayed for. SHE SAID: Thanks for your honesty including fears and apprehensions regarding online dating. It’s never where we meet someone but our motives when we do meet them.Anyone that God is bringing to you is worth the extra time in building a friendship.Now some men may joke and say they are too old to wait too long. You will never regret building a friendship—a friendship that can be in your life forever.